She was trying to help me overcome a bad habit of seeing the world in black or white terms–something was either “X” or “the opposite of X.” I don’t do that much anymore.
As I have grown older, I have more and more come to see how complicated life is, and how there are more than two sides to most questions.
Still, some things either are–wrong, tall, peaceful, etc.–or they are not. The old saying–“You cannot have your cake, and eat it, too”–is true. But there are other things more important than that.
Emmet Fox says, “You cannot have power in prayer, and the luxury of resentment and condemnation, too.” Or “build a new consciousness and a new body, and live mentally in the dead past, too.”
Sometimes, either/or is just the way it is. The good news is that God always is available to guide us.