Tying the Knot, Part 1

Yesterday, our nation’s capital became the latest jurisdiction–after Massachusetts, Vermont, New Hampshire, Iowa, and Connecticut–to grant full marriage equality.

Among the first half-dozen couples who made application yesterday–there is a waiting period so they can’t be formally married until Tuesday, March 9–were two dear friends of mine, and of many in Metropolitan Community Churches: Rev. Candy Holmes and Rev. Elder Darlene Garner (Darlene is our Region 3 Elder and Candy will be preaching at MCC Richmond in May).

Rev. Candy Holmes & Rev. Elder Darlene Garner

Last night, I receive a beautiful, powerful reflection from them about their experience–the sheer joy of getting up early to stand in an ever-growing line, and to walk out through the cheers of many waiting couples and other supporters.

Then, they were able to speak with the media about why it matters to them, two African American lesbian women, to be able to marry. They each know the heaviness of being second-class citizens based on their race, and the exhilaration at various moments of liberation of which this was the latest.

Here is part of what they wrote: 

The doors opened at 8:30 a.m. and our hearts leapt. We could not stop smiling though nothing had actually happened yet. But the jubilation was too much to contain. Who would have thought that two African American, Lesbian, clergy and great grandmothers would be poised to declare and honor their love in this way? We were ready and the time was now. We stepped into history after a long journey speckled with dashed hopes and disappointments because of who we love. But no more. Though the sky was as gray as our hair, rain could not spoil our parade this day. No one could take or steal away our joy. Thank God for this moment and for such a time when the essence and importance of our love can be counted.

As Candy and Darlene wrote, it’s all about love. And love cannot be stopped.

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Robin Hawley Gorsline

Robin is a poet (claiming this later in life) and Queer Theologian--reflecting a soul of hope and faith and joy and justice/shalom. He is happily married to Dr. Jonathan Lebolt (20 years and counting), the proud parent of three glorious daughters (and grateful to two wonderful sons-in- law and a new one soon!), and the very proud "Papa" to Juna (6) and Annie (3).

3 thoughts on “Tying the Knot, Part 1”

  1. How beautiful to be able to live out loud and celebrating! Remembering that Jesus first performed a miracle at a wedding. Thank you for sharing their story and pictures.

    Vicki Jolena

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