Not a Victim

The other day I spoke with a friend who was hurt and offended by the behavior of another person. This caused my friend to say, “I will never have anything to do with that person, or anyone else in the group to which that person belongs.”

How sad.

I do not doubt my friend’s hurt, and I feel for her, but at the same time I know the truth of Stephen Covey’s observation that “we can carry our own physical or social weather with us.”

How many times have I nursed a grudge or a hurt to the point of fixation, and cut myself off from the caring of others–not to mention contributing to my own misery? Too many.

Today, I am committed to being positive–not falsely so but realistically so–knowing that I can make choices that either contribute to beauty and harmony in the world or add to the already over-large quantities of woe and misery.

That is part of the gift of free will from God. I do not have to be a victim.

Thank you, God!